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Monday, September 29, 2014

Lessons Learned in Kindergarten: Posture and Movement Education Can Help Prevent Future Injuries


My last post pointed out the inability of a large percentage high school athletes I encounter to successfully skip horizontally with coordinated rhythm and proper amplitude.

My original intent was to tie this in with early sport specialization and how “specialization” has contributed to the  lack of FMS skill acquistion…which includes skipping, jumping, hopping, landing, crawling, lunging, running, rolling, twisting, climbing, resisting, stopping and pulling movements.

In that post, as with many more before it, I presented articles from experts (Sports Doctors, etc.) that called for Multi-Sport participation and “free play” for young athletes up to the last year or two of high school in order to enhance overall athleticism and to prevent injury. Indeed, many of the experts have cited direct evidence of an epidemic of serious injuries as well as “overuse” injuries as a result of early specialization in a single sport.

BUT, JUST AVOIDING EARLY “SPECIALIZATION” AND PARTICIPATING IN MULTIPLE SPORTS AND ATHLETIC ACTIVIITES WILL NOT NECESSARILY INSURE that young athletes will fully develop these FMS and AMSC Skills and avoid injury.

Eliminating a large percentage of athletic and over-use injury in teen-age athletics requires a solid YPD Plan that is clearly understood by parents and coaches.

Going back to a post from a while ago, I mentioned that the YPD (Youth Physical Development) Plan for young athletes should START with motor skill development that is initially focused on FMS mastery with less emphasis placed on sport-specific skills (SSS). These are the CORE or foundational skills that need to be developed in order to develop well-rounded young athletes. Early development of the skills mentioned in the second paragraph above, of which SKIPPING is a key component, you will notice an absence of AMSC skills (athletic motor skill competencies) which would include 1) throwing, 2) catching, 3) grasping, 4)acceleration, 5)deceleration and 6) re-acceleration, 7) upper body/lower body pushing and pulling...both vertically AND horizontally, 8) landing  and 9) rebounding mechanics, 10) anti-rotation and 11) core bracing and 12) lower-body bilateral and uni-lateral movement patterns.

The AMSC skills should be added into motor skill development activities so that AS the youngsters begin to master the FMS skills they are already adding in the learning of AMSC skills. These AMSC skills are the vital independent movement patterns that will make up most of the the advanced training movements that are employed by elite level athletes. This should all be done in environments that are safe, fun and FULL OF VARIED stimuli. 

 In other words, WITHIN participation in a WIDE RANGE of sport activities that ALSO DEVOTE a portion of the sport teaching and activity time for both FMS and AMSC development skills. 
 This is where youth sport coaches need to understand their role as “developers” of  well-rounded athletes IN ADDITION to specific sport teachers.

As youngsters move from prepubescence to adolescence, the amount of time spent on FMS is lessened (BUT NOT ABANDONED) with more time devoted to AMSC within the sport practice time.

ADDITIONALLY, there is a THIRD COMPONENT that is vital to the YPD Plan of all young athletes that can greatly reduce the number of sport injuries and drastically reduce over-use injuries in the teen athletic population. POSTURE!

Before the physical qualities of Strength, Speed, Power, Agility and Mobility are ready to be trained ALL YOUNGSTERS should have been taught the proper mechanics of POSTURE with Postural Education at home, school AND in sport activities. Postural strength can BEST BE DEVELOPED when used in ALL environments of a child’s developmental years.

Prepubescence is the optimum time to develop motor skill patterns, body weight strength, speed and correct posture and postural strength as this is the age where the nervous and muscular system are most adaptable.

 Lack of postural integrity, or strength, IS A MAJOR CONTRIBUTOR TO INJURIES of the back, knee, hip and lower leg/foot AND NEEDS TO BE ADDRESSED BEFORE UNDERTAKING ANY TYPE OF SPORTS TRAINING PROGRAM.

Over the years I have experienced many postural deficiencies that limit acquisition of proper sport mechanics and put the athletes at risk for certain injuries. A good example of a common postural problem that I most often encounter at the high school and junior college level is ANTERIOR PELVIC TILT.

This forward tilting of the pelvis, caused by lack of proper posture when sitting (and TOO much sitting) creates short, tight hip-flexor musculature (ilio-psoas group) which pulls the front of the pelvis “down” and forward. This “frontal, downward” tilt causes a stretching of the hamstring muscles that originate in the lower, rear portion of the pelvis which results in constant tightness of the hamstring muscles along with lack of proper muscle tension and mobility. In addition, the tilting also causes the top ridge of the pelvis to press upwards into the lumbar spine exerting pressure which can result in tightness of the low back and limit movement.

Here is a great example of how IMPROPER POSTURE DURING SITTING can create both “chronic” hamstring and low back pain and injury in addition to limiting movement.

Take a young athlete entering high school with this common postural problem and subject him/her to a training program that involves introducing back-squats with a barbell and you have a perfect setting for low back injury.

Correcting postural problems and developing postural strength and integrity should be done through resistance-band and/or body weight exercises, stretches, etc. AND SHOULD PRECEDE any loading with weights.

Young athletes who specialize early and do not develop all the FOUNDATIONAL MOVEMENT SKILLS and ATHLETIC MOVEMENT SKILL COMPETENCIES have a higher incidence of muscular imbalances.

An example of one that I see frequently involves squatting to jump VIA KNEE-FLEXION rather than the more efficient HIP-HINGE (hip-flexion) movement. This creates a situation where the athlete has become quad-dominant and lowers himself/herself for jumping and other movements via the flexion of the knees. These type of athletes have weaknesses that limit their strength and range of movement in both squatting and lunging movements and have a HIGH RISK OF DEVELOPING PATELLAR TENDONITIS.

Here is a pertinent quote from Mark Verstegen’s “CORE PERFORMANCE” book, “ If you lack pillar strength, specifically hip stability, the energy “leaks out” at the hip and the body must compensate. More pressure is placed down toward the knees and up toward the lower back, which over time can cause degenerative problems.”…”Parents are always telling their children to sit or stand up straight. There’s a reason for that. Without pillar strength, without what I call perfect posture, you will significantly increase the potential for injury in a chain that starts with your lower back, descends all the way to your knees and ankles, and rises up to your shoulders and elbows.”…”Everything in your body is connected and related through this pillar of strength. Your shoulders and spine are related to the core and gluteus maximus and they’re interwoven in cross patterns that need to be tuned for maximum efficiency.”

So, SIT UP STRAIGHT, SHOULDER BLADES PULLED BACK, ABDOMINALS ON STRETCH, PELVIS LEVEL AND EARS OVER SHOULDERS……that’s a start. NOW ACCESS and WATCH THE SHORT VIDEO on a school that PRACTICES POSTURE IN ALL PHASES OF THEIR DAILY INSTRUCTION!!! just click on the URL below....enjoy, embrace, employ!







Monday, September 22, 2014

So, What if Johnny Can't Skip?...Warning Sign or No Big Deal?


Over the course of 4+ decades of coaching the one constant that I can expect to see in with any new group of athletes is the inability of the majority of athletes to skip forwards in rhythm with arms and legs in sync, solid upper body posture and a proper push-off utilizing the glutes and a nice, sharp knee angle with heel of the drive leg kept under the butt.

I used to stare in amazement (while fighting to restrain a laugh) at how "awkward" the majority of boys were in "trying" to skip. As the years passed, girls began to display the same "lack" of ability to skip.

Try it yourself. How is it that even "very skilled" athletes reach high school without every learning to skip properly? Now, lets add in jump, land, hop and _______(fill in any other Fundamental Movement Skill).

At the present, I am trying to emphasize to coaches I work with that THEY NEED to emphasize "horizontal" skipping mechanics in order to; 1) develop proper pelvic and upper body posture for sprinting/running, 2) to develop the ability to properly UTILIZE the gluteal muscles in projecting the center of mass FORWARD, 3) to develop rhythm and sync of upper and lower body for more efficiency in running/ sprinting, etc. 4) to program correct amplitude of leg swing and hip extension AND 5) to strengthen glutes, core/postural muscles and correct stretch-reflex of musculo-tendonous tissue in the ankles.

NOW, how come coaches have to TEACH FMS skills at the high school (and college as well) level? Many don't teach it although most sport warmups have included skips for height and/ or horizontal skips in their pre-game and practice warmup routine.
MY QUESTION IS:"If the skips are important, why is there seemingly no evidence of teaching/learning the skill?" If you get to a high school football game early, just watch the warm-up and judge for yourself if these "athletes" have been taught to skip.

This rant on skipping inadequacy is not based on being a "mechanical purist" but rather on the HIGHER POINT of issue I have been trying to get across on this blog; THAT OF teaching the FOUNDATIONAL MOVEMENTS and AMSC skills
REGARDLESS OF SPORT and level of "sport" ability of the athletes.

If there is ONE, PARTICULAR reason, of the many reasons for emphasizing the mastery of FMS and AMSC skills, THAT COACHES SHOULD WANT TO ADDRESS, it would be INJURY PREVENTION.

So, knowing the infrastructure of most High School Teams/Sports do NOT include an Athletic Trainer on a daily basis OR have daily or weekly access to Physical Therapists or Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialists (NSCA being the most likely to have the necessary evaluation skills), IT WOULD BENEFIT ALL TEAMS TO INCLUDE regular FMS/AMSC development exercises in warm-ups, post practice cooldowns or both...AND be taught as important skills to be MASTERED!

In addition I am including the website below for access by coaches, athletes and parents so they have AT LEAST one source of SPORTS-MED information at their disposal other than FAMILY DOCTORS. My experience with family doctors is that there are only TWO types: 1) take 2 weeks off, ice and rest and/or other treatment OR 2) referral to Sports Specialist, PT, etc. Many times the Family Doctor's protocol works BUT when it doesn't and there is NO referral, the following website is a good place to start searching for answers. Click on the URL to go directly to site or click on any of the other, more specific pages listed under INJURY PREVENTION TIPS and OTHER ISSUES.


Tip Sheets 
  • Teaching Kids Safe Ways to Participate in Sports
  • Working with Difficult Parents
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Injury Prevention Tips
Other Issues

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BELOW ARE A FEW QUALITY ARTICLES DEALING WITH SPORTS INJURIES and high incidence of serious injuries, over-use injuries and burnout as a consequence of early specialization...

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The Death of the Multisport Athlete

September 2014
Friday night lights are back for high schools across the country, and as you read this, many of the nation's top athletes are hard at work on the gridiron preparing for this week's upcoming game. I remember my first experience around a star athlete. I was 11 years old and my oldest brother was attending Wheaton North High School, which at that time was home to Kent Graham, the best high school athlete in the state of Illinois. Kent was a 6-foot-5-inch physical freak and the number-one-ranked quarterback in the nation. He also played safety. He earned three all-conference distinctions in basketball and regularly hit .400 for the baseball team. My dad fondly recalls Kent hitting a home run off my brother in Little League that cleared the lights and still hasn't landed.


But this was back when your best athletes played multiple sports — an era that appears to be ending, as sport specialization dominates the modern high school scene. In an attempt to better position themselves for college recruiters and professional scouts, high school athletes are focusing exclusively on one sport year-round. There's certainly no shortage of opportunities, as I addressed in my January 2014 article "School's Out," which took an in-depth look at how club sports have gone from preparing athletes for high school athletics to essentially stealing athletes away from high school sports programs.

Arguments can be made for both sides of the equation, but there is one argument that prominent doctors strongly disagree with: athletes who play the same sport year-round are less susceptible to injury. In an interview with Athletic Business in August 2013, orthopedic surgeon and injury consultant Dr. James Andrews shared some insight from his book "Any Given Monday: Sports Injuries and How to Prevent Them for Athletes, Parents and Coaches — Based on My Life in Sports Medicine." In the interview, Dr. Andrews notes the dramatic increase in overuse injuries he was seeing in youth sports, due in large part to kids participating in one sport all year with little to no recovery time. Interestingly, another key factor in the rise in injuries, according to Dr. Andrews, is professionalism, the practice of training young kids whose bodies are still developing as if they are professional athletes. Dr. Andrews goes on to recommend specialization only once an athlete reaches his or her senior year in high school.

Unfortunately, his recommendations may not resonate with most coaches and parents. The pressure to develop faster and at a younger age is greater than ever before, and parents are convinced the most effective way to earn any type of athletic scholarship is through showcase events, such as Amateur Athletic Union (AAU) tournaments. While these types of tournaments have successfully spotlighted top basketball talent to recruiters, some argue they are hurting an athlete's development. In AAU, kids can play as many as four games in one day with little to no coaching, potentially impeding the necessary developmental strides they should be making.

For many high school parents and athletes today, it is no longer as much about love of the game as it is a business. Parents are "investing" outrageous amounts of money into their children's athletic development, because the fear is that they will not reach the level they need to without specialization, a notion constantly disproved. Look no further than the professional athletes we see today. Many were multisport athletes. Remember that high school wide receiver who was first-team All-State as a sophomore and led his team to the state semifinals his junior year? His name was LeBron James, and ironically, his high school football career came to an end in the summer before his senior year, when he broke his wrist playing in an AAU basketball tournament.

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Developing Athletes Instead of Specialists - The Benefits of Multi-Sport Play

Wednesday, May 21, 2014 

My 8-year-old loves sharks and has decided to pursue a PhD in Marine Biology in the hope of saving the species. I love her enthusiasm and will do my best to support her in reaching this goal.  However, I am not ready to let her drop her English, History, and Art classes to focus on marine biology. That would be crazy!  And yet, we have seen a dramatic increase in the number of young people who follow a similar course in athletics.

While many believe that early sport specialization is the best way to prepare children for a successful career in sports at the elite levels, there is growing evidence that, in the long term, this may set them up for failure (2). Children who specialize early may be at higher risk for injuries (3) and burn-out (1) than those who have more diverse experiences.  
The National Athletic Trainers’ Association recommends that pediatric athletes should participate in multiple sports throughout the year to enhance fitness and aid in motor development (5).  

Developing an athlete instead of a specialist means encouraging your child to play a variety of sports in order to develop different skill sets.  Young children need to learn basic movement skills to skip, hop, tumble, negotiate obstacles, jump, and land.  With growth and maturity they will incorporate these basic skills into more advanced movement competences allowing them to respond to offense, evade defenders, and become creative movers.  Specialists without a diverse foundation of movement skills are more prone to injury as they progress to higher levels of competition.  Athletes with varied sports backgrounds will learn new skills more quickly and avoid injury when they do eventually specialize in their chosen sport.

Another advantage of diversification is that an athlete at the end of their career can more easily transition to lifetime sports and remain active throughout their lifespan, avoiding the negative health consequences associated with inactivity.
There is also evidence to suggest that an athlete who is unable to successfully transition to other lifetime sports may be at risk for mental health issues such as depression (4).

A very wise professor taught me to measure athletes by calculating their average competitive ability in at least twenty sports.  While the math is a bit abstract, his point was very clear.  In our quest to cultivate young athletes, we should expose them to a wide variety of movement challenges early in their careers and delay specialization until mid to late adolescence.  In the long run, this may be the best way to position them for success at the elite level and more importantly, to ensure they minimize their risk of injury and engage in physical activity over the entire course of their lifetime.


Karen Y. Peck, MEd, ATC, is the Director of Orthopaedic Research at John A. Feagin Jr. Sports Medicine Fellowship Keller Army Hospital.
References
  1. Brenner JS. Overuse injuries, overtraining, and burnout in child and adolescent athletes. Pediatrics. Jun 2007;119(6):1242-1245.
  2. Fransen J, Pion J, Vandendriessche J, et al. Differences in physical fitness and gross motor coordination in boys aged 6-12 years specializing in one versus sampling more than one sport. J Sports Sci. 2012;30(4):379-386.
  3. Jayanthi N, Dugas L, Fischer D, Pasulka J, Labella C. Risks of intense, specialized training and growth for injury in young athletes: a clinical evaluation. Br J Sports Med. Apr 2014;48(7):611.
  4. Simon JE, Docherty CL. Current health-related quality of life is lower in former division I collegiate athletes than in non-collegiate athletes. Am J Sports Med. Feb 2014;42(2):423-429.
  5. Valovich McLeod TC, Decoster LC, Loud KJ, et al. National Athletic Trainers' Association position statement: prevention of pediatric overuse injuries. J Athl Train. Mar-Apr 2011;46(2):206-220.
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Kids Who Only Play One Sport Risk Injuries

Summer vacation is almost here, and so is the start of sports camps designed to transform fun-loving kids into super-powered athletes. Many of us know parents who are determined to groom sports prodigies just like the Williams sisters, Tiger Woods or perhaps one of the Manning brothers if only they log enough hours in the gym or practice court.
But a new study by a pediatric orthopedist in Chicago found that early specialization doesn’t really work. In fact, picking a single sport to focus on usually results in overtraining injuries, and worse, won’t turn your kid into an elite or professional athlete.

 “There’s a great misconception of what it takes to succeed in sports,” said Neeru Jayanthi, an associate professor in the Departments of Family Medicine and Orthopedic Surgery and Rehabilitation at Loyola University in Chicago. “You see Tiger Woods or Andre Agassi or any young phenom, and you think that’s what it takes. We are much worse than other countries. They try to diversify an athlete, we start right away with specialization.”

Jayanthi's study of 1,200 athletes from 8 to 18 years old and found that those who specialize and train intensively have a significantly higher risk of injuries like stress fractures. Kids who spent more hours per week than their age playing one sport -- a 10-year-old gymnast training 11 hours a week for example -- was 70 percent more likely to get overuse injuries.
Jayanthi and colleagues at Loyola and Lurie Children's Hospital of Chicago studied 1,206 young athletes. There were 859 total injuries, including 564 overuse injuries, in cases in which the clinical diagnosis was recorded.

The overuse injuries included 139 serious injuries such as stress fractures in the back or limbs, elbow ligament injuries and osteochondral injuries (injuries to cartilage and underlying bone). Such serious injuries can force young athletes to the sidelines for one to six months or longer.

Jayanthi agreed that common sense dictates that playing too much isn’t good. However, he said he wanted to develop some specific recommendations rather than just general advice to back off:
  • Don't practice and play one sport more hours per week than the child's age.
  • Don't spend more than twice as much time playing organized sports as in the gym and unorganized play.
  • Don't specialize in one sport before late adolescence.
  • Take a break from competition for 1 to 3 months each year.
  • Take at least 1 day off per week.
Jayanthi says he's seen overtraining injuries from individual sports such as gymnastics, tennis, swimming, competitive dance, as well as team sports like soccer, basketball and baseball.
 “Early introduction is completely fine,” Jayanthi said. “You can get kids out there and develop athletic skills. The problem is early specialization.”

Jayanthi and his colleagues presented their findings at the American Medical Society for Sports Medicine meeting recently. A similar survey at UCLA looked at the sports histories of 300 collegiate athletes in 220 varsity spots. It found that the best athletes shared two things: a diverse sports history until late teens and parents who were also competitive athletes.

“You do need to practice, you do need to participate in a consistent way,” said John DiFiori, chief of sports medicine at the UCLA School of Medicine, and team physician to the school’s department of athletics. "But rest is important, and so are a variety of physical skills. That’s the whole concept of sport diversification.”
DiFiori also said that developing athletes need more time away from structured practices and games.
“Look at Brazil,” he said about the soccer powerhouse. “They’re encouraged to play without supervision.”

Thursday, September 18, 2014

LESSONS FROM UNCLE TONI & THE NFL: Mind Set, Nutrition, Sleep & Deep Practice


While coaching Cross Country and Track and Field at a University, I ended up coaching the University Soccer Coach’s wife. She was a very talented distance runner and wanted to train with our team. One day the Soccer Coach pulled me aside and relayed what he thought was a funny, but revealing, story. His wife was reading a Track and Field Magazine article on “Proper Warm-Up” and exclaimed, “look at this, we do all those same things in our warm-up! The Soccer Coach glanced over at the article and asked his wife to look at the author of the article. Yes, it was MY article and, in fact, no coincidence that the warm-up was the same she did every day but it seemed more impressive in print.

I tell this to illustrate how much more “clout” information has when it is DISCOVERED in a magazine article, book or, more likely these days, a website or electronic magazine. 

So, TO FULLY TAKE ADVANTAGE of using books, articles and interviews WITH ELITE COACHES, ATHLETES AND EDUCATORS to my advantage, I am calling upon NFL Strength Coach and former Offensive Lineman Tom Myslinski, Toni Nadal (uncle and Coach to perhaps the number one tennis player in the world, Rafael Nadal), top Educator and well-know Blogger Tim Elmore AND noted author, (his book, The Talent Code, being instrumental for educators and coaches) and blogger Daniel Coyle to help validate my previous few blog posts.

First up, I will call upon Daniel Coyle with reference to his Talent Code, Chapter 4 titled:  THE THREE RULES OF DEEP PRACTICE ---Try again, fail again. Fail better. – Samuel Beckett

In Chapter 4, the Three Rules of Deep Practice are listed as: Rule 1: CHUNK IT UP, Rule 2: REPEAT IT, AND Rule 3: LEARN TO FEEL IT. 

Chunking, as noted by Coyle to be a strange concept, can be used for both cognitive and physical skills. So, lets use the example of physical skill. Physical and cognitive skills are both built of chunks, or parts. An athlete, when performing a competitive movement, such as throwing a javelin, he learns it through a process of assembling the various movements, or chunks, of the total technique involved in throwing the javelin (postural stance, run-up accelerating into cross-over steps with a final “braking” of the lower body and resultant explosive acceleration of trunk, shoulder and arm much like a “catapult”. To master this technique, the thrower has grouped a series of movements together. These movement patterns have been practiced often enough so that the thrower can repeat them more efficiently and then sequence them into larger parts of the whole technique and repeated until all the parts can be repeated efficiently into one, continuous flow of unconscious movement. This chunking, or mastering the individual chunks of the javelin throw before putting the chunks together to master the entire “sequence” of movements that becomes the JAVELIN THROW. Deep Practice is ALL about the building of individual parts (words for sentences, sentences for paragraphs AS WELL as a linking simple movements to form competitive movements). 

Or, as stated by Coyle: “The goal is always the same; to break a skill into its component pieces (circuits), memorize those pieces individually, then link them together in progressively larger groupings (new, interconnected circuits). He does also recommend ABSORBING THE WHOLE THING by “spending time watching or listening to the desired skill---the song, the move, the swing, as a SINGLE, COHERENT ENTITY!

Rule 2, as noted by Coyle, IS INVALUABLE AND IRREPLACEABLE. Rule 3 reminds me of Bruce Lee’s profound message of “BECOME THE MOVEMENT”.

NOW, lets put this BLOG into reverse and recall some of the important ELEMENTS for successful academic and athletic DEVELOPENT I have recommended such as; MIND SET, NUTRITION, FUNDAMENTAL MOVEMENT SKILLS AND SLEEP.
Now, connect the dots with FUNDAMENTAL MOVEMENT SKILLS and Athletic Movement Skill Competencies with DEEP PRACTICE as described by Coyle. In addition, read Tom Myslinski’s answer to the difference between college athletes and pro athletes and you will see DEEP PRACTICE as one of two big differences in college and pro athletes. In the next answer he gives THREE big things that he preaches to pro football players…NUTRITION, HYDRATION AND SLEEP. He even elaborates on the importance of sleep with reference to a noted expert…please take the time to read the two answers.

Tom Myslinski on: Other Training Variables  From>>>>> Sept.16th Part 3 Interview w/Martin Bissinger

Martin: You have also coached at the collegiate level. What are some of the big differences you see with professional athletes?

Tom: The two big differences that separate pro guys from college guys are their self-awareness and ability to conduct deliberate practice. If we can create self-awareness, they are able to communicate to us better. The better they can communicate to us, the better we can train them. As for deliberate practice, practice means everything to them.  It’s their job and livelihood. They do not take it for granted.

The big three things we preach to our guys are sleep, nutrition and hydration. I want them to control the things that they can control because there is so much in their sport and their lives that is out of their control. For example, we live in Florida and our heat index is 100+ degrees every day. Hydration is a big deal here. Our guys must understand that they have to consistently stay hydrated on a daily basis and that requires work.

Martin: Nutrition has been a big topic for decades now, but sleep has been overlooked for a while. I don’t think it is talked about as much as it should since it has a huge effect on training and performance.
Tom: Cheri Mah is a scientist over at Stanford and has some really good published research on this topic. Her current research concludes that most athletes are about a month in sleep debt. Elite athletes should get 8 to 10 hours of sleep a night, but most of them are only getting 6 to 7. That amount sleep debt can’t be made up through a nap, and has to made up at night.

That’s an easy conversation to have with an athlete.  “Hey you aren’t sleeping enough” and “you need to sleep more” but actually getting it is a different story.  That’s where the athlete has to learn to be more self-aware and give a little bit too. Maybe the athlete needs to unwire at night, disconnect from the world, and force themselves to go to bed a little bit earlier. They might need to break bad habits and develop new sleep patterns.
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Remember, this all material I have presented for your CHUNKING.
NOW, what about all the noise I have made regarding MINDSET? If you didn’t read the Carol Dweck interview regarding her book on MINDSET, maybe you would rather listen to UNCLE TONI, as in Toni Nadal, lifelong coach of Rafael Nadal, BEFORE supplementing with Tim Elmore’s helpful thoughts on FIVE WORDS EVERY CHILD NEEDS TO HEAR.

The following quotes from Toni Nadal are taken from the book RAFA My Story, by Rafael Nadal with John Carlin:
“Where Toni is unbendingly doctrinaire, however, is in his views regarding the way children should be brought up. “The problem nowadays,” he says, “is that children have become too much the center of attention. Their parents, their families, everybody-around- them feels a need to put them on a pedestal. So much effort is invested in boosting their self-esteem that they are made to feel special in and of themselves, without having done anything. People get confused: they fail to grasp that you are NOT SPECIAL because of who you are BUT BECAUSE of WHAT YOU DO.”
“Respect for other people, for everyone irrespective of who they might be or what they might do, is the starting point of everything”, Toni says. “What is NOT acceptable is that people who have had it all in life should behave coarsely with other people. No, the higher you are, the greater your duty to treat people with respect.-------I always say, and his parents do too, that it is MORE IMPORTANT TO BE A GOOD PERSON THAN A GOOD PLAYER.”
“The things you receive as gifts, unless they come with special sentimental attachment, you don’t value, whereas the thing you achieve by YOUR OWN EFFORTS, you value a lot. The GREATER THE EFFORT, THE GREATER THE VALUE.”
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Five Words Every Child Needs to Hear
July 22, 2014 — Tim Elmore           ow.ly/2KvO9q

I spoke to a Division 1, NCAA football player who dropped off the radar screen his senior year. All four years, he’d been a great student (3.8 GPA) and a well-respected starting player for his school. But after December (translate that — when his final season ended) he was missing in action. He didn’t show up to class, his grades dropped, and he became a social recluse. When I found this out and caught up with him, I asked why he’d disappeared. His response?
“I’m just so scared about what comes next.”

This student had figured out how to get a scholarship, how to pass a test and how to catch a football but felt entirely inadequate at becoming an adult. Adults in his life had focused so much on his current happiness, they forgot about future readiness.

Much more than the gift of happiness, caring adults owe each new generation some perspective. I believe we must be willing to sacrifice their temporary happiness for long-term happiness — including preparing them to be disciplined adults themselves. Instead of pleasure, let’s prepare them for fulfillment.

What if we borrowed a page from the playbook of the past? A few years ago, Izquierdo and Ochs wrote an article for Ethos, the journal of the Society of Psychological Anthropology. They posed cultural questions like: Why do Matsigenka children “help their families at home more than L.A. children?” And “Why do L.A. adult family members help their children at home more than do Matsigenka?”

With the exception of the imperial offspring of the Ming dynasty, contemporary kids in the U.S. may represent the most indulged young people in the history of the world. Writer Elizabeth Kolbert notes, “It’s not just that they’ve been given unprecedented amounts of stuff — clothes, toys, cameras, skis, computers, cell phones, televisions, PlayStations, iPods (the market for Burberry Baby and other forms of kiddie ‘couture’ has reportedly been growing by ten percent a year). They’ve also been granted unprecedented authority. ‘Parents want their kids’ approval, a reversal of the past ideal of children striving for their parents’ approval,’ Jean Twenge and W. Keith Campbell, both professors of psychology, have written. In many middle-class families, children have one, two, sometimes three adults who are ready and waiting to meet their every beck and call. This is a social experiment on a grand scale, and a growing number of adults fear it isn’t working out so well.: according to one poll, commissioned by TIME and CNN, two-thirds of American parents think that their children are spoiled.”

But who’s really to blame? Hmmm. We can’t just say it’s the kids. Let me suggest some key ideas to follow as you lead your young people:
1. They need to hear the word “watch.”
They need an example from you more than they need entertainment from you. When kids lack direction or discipline, they don’t need more diversion. What they need is an example that demonstrates how to grow wise as they grow up. They need to see adults living for something greater than themselves. They need leaders who show them how to be selfless and sacrificial.
2. They need to hear the word “practice.”
They need long-term preparation more than short-term happiness. Kids have plenty of amusements that offer pleasure; they need help getting ready for a not-so-pleasurable future where they’ll need to pay their dues on a job for a while. Real satisfaction comes when a person commits to a goal and masters it.
3. They need to hear the word “no.”
They need a mentor more than a buddy. I decided years ago, my kids have lots of buddies. They have only one dad. That’s me. So I must play the card that isn’t always fun but earns their future love and respect. This means they may not “like me” each week of their childhood or adolescence. If I earn their respect through leading them well, love will naturally follow.
4. They need to hear the word “wait.”
Today, most things happen quickly, with little wait time. Our ability to delay gratification has shrunk. I think it’s important for parents, teachers, coaches, employers and youth pastors to build “wait time” into the game plan for their young people — as a rehearsal for adult life. Kids naturally become happy when they learn to appreciate waiting for something they want and delaying gratification.
5. They need to hear the word “serve.”
Unlike other cultures in history, we’ve made “the pursuit of happiness” a part of our American tradition. It’s in the Declaration of Independence because service was so imbedded into the society at the time. Being happy was a relatively new thought to that generation. Today, we breed consumers more than contributors — producing dissatisfied kids. All I can say is: It’s no wonder.
Through the years, I’ve had the chance to interview hundreds of parents, coaches and parents on what adjustments we need to make as we lead kids. In response, my latest book, Twelve Huge Mistakes Parents Can Avoid, was just released. In it, I outline a dozen common mistakes that sabotage our kids’ journey into adulthood, including:
  • We won’t let them fail.
  • We project our lives on them.
  • We remove the consequences.
  • We praise the wrong things…and others.
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